What is love? Why do
some feel they have to be told they are loved? How can you want someone to love
you, flaws and all, but you can’t accept yourself?
The four letter word
called love is powerful and I don’t understand it sometimes. A friend once said
something like, if you can show me love, you can say I love you too. Is it a
woman’s thing to be that “demanding” for someone to “say it”? Demanding may not
be the right word but I’ve been pressured to say “I love you” because my
actions weren’t good enough? Da fuq!!
I hear once you love
someone, you love them forever? Maybe it’s once you’re “in love”. It’s all
confusing to me because there seems to be a condition even when someone doesn’t
say there is. I don’t feel the need to hear it. Although when I have heard it, especially
for the first time from someone, it meant a lot to me. It’s ok if I hear it
periodically but usually when it’s been said a lot, it’ll eventually be
followed by why can’t you say it back. Ummm, if expect me to say it back then
you shouldn’t have said it in the first place. Love me unconditionally or you
can keep it.
I wrote all the above
stuff earlier in the week. The other day on FB, seen this post. I kind of knew
this but I have a problem with a couple of things in this post that I’ve been
mentioning.
“I accept you
for the person that you are, and that I don’t wish to change you into someone
else.”
Ok, I heard that
and it sounds good. That is what they say but…” It means that I do not expect perfection
from you, just as you don’t expect it
from me.” HUH? Did anyone else see what I saw? Why put this part in
there if it’s about YOU loving me?? How would you loving me mean I can’t have expectations??
I guess when you love someone they have to think and feel the exact same why as
you? Someone please explain this to me.
“‘I LOVE YOU’
means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return only that you do not
judge me for mine.” This is why I said “ehhh” when I posted this on FB.
Isn’t this a condition, what if I do judge you, does that mean my feelings for
you are different or not as genuine as yours just because you don’t? But yet
(refer to the first line of the post). Contradiction!!!! I mean, I see the
asking but that person either will or won’t judge you, would that change if you
love that person?
I mean, if whomever
wrote that post would’ve left those 2 lines out plus part of the last line, I
could dig it. I just don’t believe every person loves the same so that’s why
the first line in the post is very important and maybe just as important is the
rest of the post.
I don’t know, I
feel like I’m not making any sense but feel free to drop some knowledge on me
about it all……
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